The 5 Secret Ways to Outsmart a Narcissist That They Don't Want You to Know

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When we talk about narcissism, we’re really identifying behavioural traits of a predatory personality type.

There are several different ones included under this umbrella of terms, which are also sometimes referred to as dark personality types.

These include, but are not limited to, primary and secondary psychopathy and NPD.

Most of the people you meet with this disorder will never be diagnosed, but all of them exhibit clearly defined thinking patterns which are indicative of an exploitative nature.

Sinister Objectives

What you’re dealing with is a mindset, and the way that it differs from most people is that it operates from the perspective of “How much can I take from this person, and what have I got to do to get it as quickly as possible?”

These people are goal-oriented, which means they don’t come into anyone’s life just to get to know them.

They aren’t interested in that; they only get involved with people because they have something that they want.

However, these people are not as hidden as they think.

They imagine that they can move with the crowd and that they are concealed in it, but when I was a teenager, I broke down a series of their behaviours to make identifying them at home and school a lot easier.

This sounds complicated, but it’s really easy; the basics of it are that you’re looking for the idea that you are the means to an end for this person.

In short, they will say long-term things to you, but they will exhibit short-term behaviours. That’s because this person only intends to be with you for as long as it takes them to reach their goal.

Once they have what they want, they are gone.

The goal could be somewhat unrelated to the relationship, for example, the narcissist could be trying to use your connection because they’ve noticed you’re financially stable, you own your home, and they need somewhere to live.

The goal in this case isn’t just to move in with you, it's to get into the house and take it out from under you.

The Devil in the Details

People with predatory personality types often get this way because they didn’t age or grow mentally or emotionally at all, so now they are a toddler trapped inside the body of an adult, and they want the things that adults can have, but they lack the skills to obtain them.

The problem is that their ego is huge, and it tells them that they deserve that car, house, job, or cash that always seems out of reach for them.

Without the skills to earn it, they must take it for themselves.

What this looks like in real life is a grandiose sense of self-worth, with lots of confident talk about how well they’re doing, so well in fact that they will brag about being able to quit their job in 3-4 years.

They may even victim bash about how difficult their life is because of all these other people that they have secretly been targeting.

But if you examine or ask about any of the details in their story, they will get mad at you all of a sudden, and make you the problem for poking holes in their carefully crafted narrative.

Good Things Come to Those Who Wait

They are tricky to spot, and difficult to exact legal justice upon, but they do have a set of weaknesses, the biggest is patience.

They have very short-term thinking, and with the emotional maturity of a toddler, they find it almost impossible to wait patiently for anything.

This is why they have to rush everything with you, and not only that, but they don’t want you to think too long about the facts because you might make some moves which are not beneficial to them.

They’re good liars, I’ll give them that, but they can’t fake wanting to get to know you, and if you examine their past a bit closer before jumping into anything permanent, usually all the skeletons come tumbling out of their closet.

When you are successful in seeing through the con, it’s easy to forget that these people are dangerous.

That’s why you should never confront them with your findings; instead, just privately figure out your next move and ghost them.

A desperate narcissist or psychopath who blames you for their shortcomings can be a lethal enemy to have.

Emotional Manipulation

Never allow your emotions to rush you into anything because predator personality types are masters at manipulating how you feel, even when they’re not present.

That’s why your emotional control is their enemy.

You should avoid getting emotionally involved with anyone new until you have vetted them sufficiently because once someone with a predator personality has the keys to your life, it’s extremely hard to remove them later.

If you start to suspect someone close to you, rather than acting as emotionally indifferent as you feel, you should play along with what the narcissist says they feel about the relationship.

Remember, a predator knows what they must do to get you to trust them, so they will be overly loving, giving and affectionate very early on in the relationship.

They’ll also make all the right noises to make you think they’re most definitely the one, but if you hang back a second, you’ll realise that this new person has played your emotions to manipulate your nervous system in a way that is beneficial to them alone.

They are experts at this, so never underestimate them.

You can prove this by asking yourself what you really know about this person, and it's typically very little.

That’s not your fault, it is by design.

The jig would be up if you knew even a little bit about this individual.

Always try to do things with the goal of getting to know your person, as this is the opposite of what a goal-oriented individual wants.

If you’re met with rage, push back or ghosting behaviour when you try to do this, think twice.

Slow and steady wins the race; Taking things slower is healthy, and it will expose what these people are trying to do. They may even lose interest and bounce.

Someone with a predatory mindset will go as fast as possible to try and get what they want, but they lack the mental and emotional tools required to wait for it, so insisting on slowing things down can be a great way to expose them.

The Dark Truth About What “Supply” Actually Is

When we talk about supply, we’re really talking about exploiting people for the narcissist to get their needs met.

The main things that count as narcissistic supply are energy, money, attention, and time.

Exploiting another to get your needs met is never okay, and I think it’s time to call a spade a spade.

Whatever capacity a narcissist may be leeching off of you or others for, they are preying upon people with lies and manipulation to get things that they know they can’t get using their own merit.

As soon as you realise that this is what they’re trying to extract from you, cut the supply line and don’t give them what they want anymore.

Don’t reply when they drop you a text out of the blue, and don’t get mad when they bait you into an argument.

Starve them of attention.

They never expect that you’ll get wise to the game and start playing, because the game a narcissist plays relies on people being unwilling participants in a game they don’t know the rules to.

Surprise them.