If only I had your insight as a teenager! It would have made a massive difference in my life as a now middle aged woman who had memorized their playbook and learned how simple and incredibly uncreative their same old tired out methods really were.
Thank you so much Bridget! People with sociopathic tendencies are everywhere now for some weird reason, and dealing with them is no longer limited to people like us that they raised.
In a situation like this, practical advice for how to deal with them is necessary to remedy the damage done so that healthy people can be successful.
The problem that I see most often is that mentally healthy people get overlooked in society for work promotions and relationships because the charisma of the sociopath enamours people, but the trouble with that is that they are a fragment of a person.
So they won't have the emotional intelligence or the long-term thinking to run that business properly, or value the person that they are with.
When a sick person gets chosen by society over the healthy ones, it leads to the good people becoming disillusioned and they just give up and check out.
Hence, all these movements like MGTOW, 4B, and rejecting the 9-5. These are people who have been hurt by sociopaths gaming the system that they trusted to give them the fulfilment that they needed.
My pleasure. You’re absolutely correct about the total disillusionment of corporate life and It’s a very REAL problem. It’s happened to me several times and during those incredibly stressful times, I could clearly tell that they were disingenuous sycophantic “Yes” people to whomever was “in charge.” However, they view every relationship as transactional, so they will turn on their own superior if the opportunity presents itself.
They are seemingly charming, funny, and charismatic people - without a conscience. No, they don’t value others or have any kind of “follow through” for their “big visions.” They deflect blame onto their team members for any mistakes made or goals left unaccomplished. They relentlessly gossip about everyone and feign outrage if someone calls them out for their behavior.
They take advantage of everyone. They will steal your ideas and pass them off to the boss as their own (personal experience and I didn’t even know what to do…I’d never do anything so fragrantly wrong without giving a second thought to the colleague I’d wronged.)
They make work miserable for their team members and abuse their subordinates (too young to understand that her actions were downright cruel to a 21 year old intern me. Or, I just rationalized it as this was just how people treat you in corporate life.)
They are promoted because they have an abundance of arrogance and absolutely no true leadership skill - they don’t know how to relate to humans - it’s all performative nonsense and they just keep getting away with everything.
I read that these traits are becoming increasingly more prevalent due to the rise of social media and how people are constantly seeking validation from strangers/acquaintances instead of just being looking within for meaning. It’s pervasive in our society and it’s exactly why we have the 4B movement and anti 9 to 5 mentalities - because they make work miserable.
It’s a top down problem that needs addressing at the apex of the corporate hierarchy. But, most CEOs and politicians have antisocial tendencies!! So, they rarely admit a failure or lack of judgment - leading to an increasingly hostile workplace.
Fragments cannot lead. They only exaggerate their accomplishments (which are vague and often inaccurate) while NEVER acknowledging their own flaws. There’s no humility nor integrity.
Perhaps it’s best that I don’t go back to the past, because it wasn’t the most pleasant experiences for someone as sensitive as I am.
If only I had your insight as a teenager! It would have made a massive difference in my life as a now middle aged woman who had memorized their playbook and learned how simple and incredibly uncreative their same old tired out methods really were.
As always, great article!! 😊👏
Thank you so much Bridget! People with sociopathic tendencies are everywhere now for some weird reason, and dealing with them is no longer limited to people like us that they raised.
In a situation like this, practical advice for how to deal with them is necessary to remedy the damage done so that healthy people can be successful.
The problem that I see most often is that mentally healthy people get overlooked in society for work promotions and relationships because the charisma of the sociopath enamours people, but the trouble with that is that they are a fragment of a person.
So they won't have the emotional intelligence or the long-term thinking to run that business properly, or value the person that they are with.
When a sick person gets chosen by society over the healthy ones, it leads to the good people becoming disillusioned and they just give up and check out.
Hence, all these movements like MGTOW, 4B, and rejecting the 9-5. These are people who have been hurt by sociopaths gaming the system that they trusted to give them the fulfilment that they needed.
My pleasure. You’re absolutely correct about the total disillusionment of corporate life and It’s a very REAL problem. It’s happened to me several times and during those incredibly stressful times, I could clearly tell that they were disingenuous sycophantic “Yes” people to whomever was “in charge.” However, they view every relationship as transactional, so they will turn on their own superior if the opportunity presents itself.
They are seemingly charming, funny, and charismatic people - without a conscience. No, they don’t value others or have any kind of “follow through” for their “big visions.” They deflect blame onto their team members for any mistakes made or goals left unaccomplished. They relentlessly gossip about everyone and feign outrage if someone calls them out for their behavior.
They take advantage of everyone. They will steal your ideas and pass them off to the boss as their own (personal experience and I didn’t even know what to do…I’d never do anything so fragrantly wrong without giving a second thought to the colleague I’d wronged.)
They make work miserable for their team members and abuse their subordinates (too young to understand that her actions were downright cruel to a 21 year old intern me. Or, I just rationalized it as this was just how people treat you in corporate life.)
They are promoted because they have an abundance of arrogance and absolutely no true leadership skill - they don’t know how to relate to humans - it’s all performative nonsense and they just keep getting away with everything.
I read that these traits are becoming increasingly more prevalent due to the rise of social media and how people are constantly seeking validation from strangers/acquaintances instead of just being looking within for meaning. It’s pervasive in our society and it’s exactly why we have the 4B movement and anti 9 to 5 mentalities - because they make work miserable.
It’s a top down problem that needs addressing at the apex of the corporate hierarchy. But, most CEOs and politicians have antisocial tendencies!! So, they rarely admit a failure or lack of judgment - leading to an increasingly hostile workplace.
Fragments cannot lead. They only exaggerate their accomplishments (which are vague and often inaccurate) while NEVER acknowledging their own flaws. There’s no humility nor integrity.
Perhaps it’s best that I don’t go back to the past, because it wasn’t the most pleasant experiences for someone as sensitive as I am.
You shed the light on a much larger issue….